Once again, the celebration of Father’s Day is here again. Father’s Day is a day of the year on which fathers or father-figures are particularly honoured by their children for playing various roles in their lives.
Father figures include fathers, step-fathers, fathers-in-law, grandfathers, great-grandfathers and other male relatives.
The day is set aside to celebrate fatherhood and male parenting. Although the day is celebrated on a variety of dates worldwide, many countries observe this day on the third Sunday in June.
It is celebrated by giving gifts such as cards, flowers, clothing, electronic gadgets, household tools, dining out, spending time together or sending text messages on the social media to deserving fathers.
As the world celebrates Father’s Day tomorrow, The Spectator Gender Exclusive was in town to interact with some fathers who shared some views on parenting.
Pastor Christian Lion Lokko, Public Relations Officer, Remar Ghana says that as a father he had personally had lots of experiences in his youthful days which now informed decisions and choices he makes.
“As someone who has to overcome the difficult vicissitudes of life, I believe the father needs to be first of all an exemplary role model,” he said.
He added that to his belief, fatherhood is divine; the father is the head and therefore must set a good example for the children.
“He must guide, protect, provide and lead them in a God-fearing manner. He must not be a dictator but have a listening ear in order to empathise with the children,“ he said.
Pastor Lokko continued, “The perfect father must totally endeavour to lead the children in the fear of God for that is the beginning of wisdom.
Hear him, “the best husband is the one who loves God first. If he loves God he will fear God and that will allow him to love his wife faithfully”.
In disciplining children, he said the father must do a thorough self-search to identify the root cause of the problem if it was from him or from the child. And then prayerfully and lovingly address the issues with godly principles.
A father, who wanted to remain anonymous, was of the view that although disciplining must be done in love.
“Beating makes a child timid and sometimes stubborn,” he said.
He advised wives to bear with their husbands when making certain demands.
For Baaba Haruna, who is a vulcaniser, there is peaceful co-existence between him and his wife but sometimes they have financial difficulty.
“I am very transparent to my wife and she accepts whatever I give her if I do not have enough money,” he noted.
As a caring father he provides for his two young children, keeps an eye on them whenever they are playing or watching television.
Mr. William Barnes, an Administrative Assistant said as a father he had no problem at all with his children.
“I have three children and have educated them very well up to University level, one of whom is married.
According to him, his relationship with his wife is very cordial though they sometimes have petty quarrels but “we do not involve outsiders, neither do we let the children know”.
“I have always kept my mother’s advice to avoid bad friends, womanising and stealing and so things are getting on well with me,” he noted.
Fathers who neglect their children but give alms to outsiders in order to gain recognition at the expense of their children’s welfare should desist from that and be responsible at home.
Mr. Samuel Okpoti Konney-Odamten, a supervisor of Mechanical Workshop who was so elated, told our reporters that “Good fathers will chop on Father’s Day.”
“For me, I have no problem with my children and family as a whole because I am always ready to help financially, offer pieces of advice, and use my strength to help others, so I know this Father’s Day, I will really chop,” he said.
He advised every father to be responsible and transparent to their children.
“Even if you do not have the money your relationship with your children should be cordial,” he said.
For Long-John, a pensioner, being a father means you have to be responsible so that in future your children will not be like a tree planted without water.
He said disciplining children these days is very difficult because of human rights and that had made some children to be recalcitrant with some ending up on the streets.
“The system needs overhauling. I will be glad if the government will allow the children to be disciplined in schools,” he appealed.
Mr. Augustine Sarfo, a driver, says he had been advising his children to be content with whatever they have and not be greedy but to be patient in life.
He advised husbands not to quarrel with their wives in the presence of their children or shout at them in public else they would also respond harshly.
“Marrying a woman does not mean that you have bought her but if you treat her well, she will love you. There should be transparency and truthfulness in your dealings with her,” he advised.
For fathers who spend time boozing, Mr. Sarfo advised them to stop else it would lead them astray.
Mr. Daniel Adofo, a trader said fathers needed to be nice to their children so the children could easily approach them.
“A husband should not treat his wife as an enemy but as a friend. Keep an eye on the children so that they do not join bad company. If you stay out late, your child will imitate you.”
By Georgina Quaittoo and Alfred Nii Arday Ankrah